March 26, 2006, 2:59pm

I'm still working on my presentation of child attachment. Have been working on this for two days already.

Well, it talks about how children react after separation from their parents. Basically, 1. Secure children are happy to explore around when parents are present. After separation from parents, they are happy in the reunion; 2. anxious children are anxious even though parents are present. They cannot be easily comforted after separation from parents; 3. Avoidant children don't seem to be happy when parents come back after separation. They try to avoid the parents; 4. Disorganized children have unresolved issues in their attachment history (well, not sure what this means).

I just feel, is there any studies about how parents react? Reading all these papers remind me about the separation stories in my own childhood. I remember countless times I got separated from that sick pig in the wet market before I moved to Sha tin. So, it was before when I was 8.

Many times I suddenly found that that pig was out of sight. Also many times, both my brother and I didn't see her so we would be standing in the middle of the street, looking and waiting for her.

Yet, every time, she would be scolding us for disappearing. Just totally sick. Why would it be the child's responsibility? She's the parent. She's not watching out for us. Separation occurred so many times, so often, yet she simply wouldn't find a way to prevent this from happening. Only scolding.

Well, all those years I was scolded and didn't fireback. Then when I grow up and fireback, I'm just doing more wrong, in her perspective.

What is that? It doesn't make any sense at all. Well, thinking back, she has never made any sense perhaps all her life.